Thursday, 8 July 2010

A key word - adjustment

This is one of the words that really has been a big part of my new life.
I was in my relationship for 14 years. That's a long time to be with someone. We shared a home for 13 of those years. With my new life, I have had to adjust to being on my own a lot more of the time. Although while together I did my share of housework, cooking, washing, ironing etc. it's still a bit of a change to have to do it ALL. There is no one else to ask if they don't mind cooking for that night as you're knackered or to do the washing for that day.
Don't get me wrong - I have always liked my own company, and sometimes during my relationship I enjoyed the time alone I got. But having it forced on you is a shock. We share custody (I hate that word) of Jake so I do have company in him for half my week but adjusting to being alone in the evenings has been tough. Is tough. I'm still getting used to things. For a while I felt like I was going slightly strange with the amount of time to myself I was getting, sometimes with no contact with anyone for days at a time (when it wasn't my weekend for Jake for example). This feeling has started to fade (although that may mean because I have turned slightly strange...?)
Anyway - no real point to this post today, just a spouting of things I've been thinking.


greeny said...

I doubt you are stranger than any other point...JK!

Glad to see you here. I thought about you all the way home from Michigan yesterday- 12 hours. Well, truth is I was also thinking of a hamburger, too.
Talk soon.

Anonymous said...

What affect has it had on Jake?


Simon said...

Gert - Jake has been utterly fantastic. Sometimes during the earlier days you could see it was affecting him, but more times than I care to mention he has been MY strength. I am very, very lucky to have such a fantastic son. My one biggest regret about all this is that Jake had to be involved. He is a wonderful boy.